First message on online dating site
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It should be short, concise and have questions, so she can have the opportunity to respond.
Secondly, you want to capture their attention, so they actually do respond.It’s actually slightly enraging to read some of these messages that these guys are sending to some of my female friends, only because all I can think is “HOW THIS IS MY COMPETITION!? Especially when I receive screen shots of first messages like the one below : I can’t even. That, somehow they are “beating the system” and not really having to do any work, other than craft a single super generic message and send it out dozens of times.Because if they actually thought that the women they were sending the messages to knew that these were generic messages, they wouldn’t be sending them right?Objective 1: Prove that you read her profile This is by far the most important objective, I would think female’s are looking for a guy that actually invested the time to read her profile before he decided to send her a message.How I demonstrate I actually took the time to read her profile is by commenting on something specific mentioned in her profile (DUH).Typically, it’s something complementary on something she has mentioned as a passion, interest or career. ” Objective 2: Show we have similar interest/things in common Okay, you’ve proven you’ve read her profile, now you need to demonstrate you actually have things in common.
Mentioning shared interest helps create the buy in, she needs to relate to you. I once dressed up as Luke Skywalker for 6 months straight, prior to the release of the Star Wars: Episode III Revenge of the Sith!Preferably, open ended questions, in regards to her profile.She will be more likely to respond if you ask her about something mentioned in her profile, as opposed to a random question you want answered. There absolutely is, that one girl that is an egotistical maniac that loves hearing stuff like that from strangers on the internet.I don’t actually know “How to Write the Perfect First Message”, and since I’m being honest, the title of this post is mostly for SEO reasons.I need this, no, WE need this to be a PSA for guys of the internet who are doing online dating, on how to send a first message.Here are a few screen shots of a few of the last messages I sent out. And if it doesn’t, that’s fine, I get it, the attractive guy who just writes “hey” will get a response, only because he’s attractive.