There are pros and cons to each, and it's better to evaluate each site's advantages rather than worrying about free vs paid.Let's start by going back to a point I made earlier: don't lie. Talk about yourself, what you like to do, and who you are. Don't be overly self-deprecating, don't make offensive comments, and try not to write the same tired jokes as everyone else ("The most embarrassing thing I'm willing to admit is that I'm on Ok Cupid" or "I'm so bad at talking about myself! You can write as much or as little as you want, but be careful -- too much and you run the risk of oversharing, too little and people won't have anything to go off of. We have a whole separate article about this, so I won't go into too much detail here, but don't fill your profile up with boring head shots. Choose photos of you doing what you love, you with friends and family, and something that shows your face and body well enough for people to know what you look like.
But, despite your curiosity, you haven't been able to convince yourself to actually try it out.
And, while I can't promise everyone's experience will be as great as mine, I do think it's worth a shot.
Here are a few questions I often get from people who are curious... When it comes to the internet, there's not much people doing. Most people won't admit it, but plenty of them do it.
It's much less overwhelming, and pretty easy to weed through. Online dating's usefulness is dependent upon a lot of factors -- your location, your age, your personality type, what you're looking for, and so on.
It's easier in densely populated areas than in rural areas, for example.
Make sure you're sending messages that aren't too short and quippy, or too long and detailed.
If you need some help, have a friend critique your profile, or post it in a forum like /r/okcupid (or whatever site you're using). Secondly, it's hard at first, but you have to think of online dating as a numbers game.More importantly: On most dating sites, your profile isn't truly "public". Neither of you have anything to be embarrassed about.The only people who can see your profile are other people signed up for the site. I ran into a couple friends on Ok Cupid, and it ended up being really funny -- and we ended up talking a lot more about our experience later on. But consider this: meeting someone online, especially after you have a chance to vet them, is no less safe than meeting someone at a bar or a club.In fact, unless you have a buddy system with Batman, it's probably safer.That said, it's only safer if you take the necessary precautions: don't post personally identifiable information (like your phone number or address) on your profile, and only give it out after you've messaged with someone enough to feel comfortable giving it out.That said, the "searching for dates" portion of the process can feel impersonal -- scanning people's profiles, looking at pictures, responding to some messages and X-ing others out. Think of it like this: instead of waiting for Mr or Mrs right to appear in front of you, you're taking an active role in finding someone who shares your interests and values. You probably have a chance of getting less "spam" on paid sites, but that's just one portion of the equation.